Just for a day or two.

Falstaff · Oct 11, 2005, 02:11 PM

Logan wants a new father, and he's quite particuler to say
someone who loves him and his mother and wont go away.

Many years he has waited, and many more he may.
for his father loves no person but himself, and Logan has cried and prayed.

I had a chance for a weekend to hold his hand and listen while he spoke
we went to the zoo, we went to the store, and we laughed and he told a joke.

But deep in his heart, he told me, is an image of a man who gave him his name.
but for a few weekends a month I get to be that man, and to Logan it is all the same.

Each morning now, I ask that the good Lord to watch over , and keep him safe and sound.
That though my children are grown and moved away, at least he will see me come around.

A little boy of nine knows no other way to honestly express.
his desire for a man of character and kindness, and to be his very best.

I can for just a day or two, and perhaps longer if I choose.
teach him to measure his success by what he gained and not what he may lose.

His own flesh and blood, a man who knows him as his own son.
chose a path of destruction, used drugs and used a gun.

Logan asked me once when he was forced by circumstance to become a man.
that if it were alright with me, just for a few days I understand.

And so with each day, each week and each month that passes by.
that I measure up to the expectations of a boy with so many burdens, and let his heart fly.

Fatherhood is much more than any responsibility I could ever hope to comprehend.
the privilege of being one for Logan for a day or two is one I hope never ends.

Vikingod · Oct 11, 2005, 03:35 PM

Very nice jeff, I know exactly the feeling behind that poem, I feel the same for my eldest daughter, especially the last line.

Falstaff · Oct 11, 2005, 04:10 PM

I remember when I was thirty, and was so shocked that I lived that long, now I hope I live to fifty and help the young man on his way...he deserves so much more..
Drugs have taken so many lives, and cancer is not far behind. I hope the legacy is favorable for the boy, he will inherit so many things that he cannot possibly understand, I hope I can be around to clear it all up for him.
I might just stick around, and see.

pr0digal jenius · Oct 11, 2005, 05:20 PM

very moving, especially for those of us who have had "father issues"

Falstaff · Oct 11, 2005, 07:58 PM

Logan is no different than so many other youngsters robbed of a father figure by circumstance, but he is special nonetheless. There is nothing more honorable IMO than to spend a few moments with a child without a parent, and listen to the music of their heart. I have grown accustomed to the melody, and maybe like an old bear, I can tolerate a cub or two gnawing on me LOL.
Damon, Logan and so many other children need love, need guidiance and tolerance in a world that would consume them if we left them to their own fate.
I believe the biggest problem facing the world are fatherless children.

Vikingod · Oct 11, 2005, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Falstaff

I believe the biggest problem facing the world are fatherless children.

I can't agree more, its a problem that is reaching epidemic proportions. The real scary thing is, its almost to the point (where I live, at least) that it is accepted as normal, and gets no more attention than a complaint or two, and a snide remark. That sickens me. Now adays, fathers seem to get a pat on the back , just for being a father, fucking rediculous in my opinion. I had my daughter young, and my wife had a daughter that was 3 at the time we got together. It seemed that after Kira (my youngest) was born, everyone was like "hey good job for sticking around..., etc. etc." That was a huge shock to me. Its like being commended for taking a damn shower ("Good job on taking that shower today, ya know, that was real good of you") I have too many friends, that were in a tough (not impossible) situation, and many of them just washed their hands and took the cowards way out. I;ve not looked them in the face since then.

pr0digal jenius · Oct 11, 2005, 08:53 PM

it is sad, your right seth.

I get blank looks and "you're fucking kidding" when people find out that I A - haven't had sex, and B - plan on settling down

"Settling down" isn't common anymore. I guess 40 is the new 20

Vikingod · Oct 11, 2005, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by pr0digal jenius

"Settling down" isn't common anymore. I guess 40 is the new 20

Its funny, they used to call that "growing up" i think.

Falstaff · Oct 11, 2005, 11:52 PM

Its a hard world that seeks to destroy children....
that is what I believe...
exploited by circumstance....
exploited by drug dealers and pornographers....
consumed...

pr0digal jenius · Oct 12, 2005, 05:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Vikingod

Its funny, they used to call that "growing up" i think.

nobody grows up anymore....everyone claims to be 5 older then they arentil they hit 30, then they claim to be 10 years younger

Falstaff · Oct 12, 2005, 01:37 PM

What I find consistently is the expectations placed on children today by their parents who themselves are placing greater burdens upon themselves far exceed anything realistic.
Children without parents and without proper guidiance struggle with issues that to us seem so benign, but wiegh heavily upon them.
A boy who has turned his back on his father because of his drug use and abusive and criminal behaviour demonstrates great courage when he reaches out and asks of us, whether we can help him find his own image to embrace.
I have been fortunate to be able to take my father for granted and my mother as well. To a child of nine, I cant imagine what wheels must turn in his mind and what must be ripped from his heart to allow him to make is real father "dead".
I didnt intend to rescue this child nor would I label my efforts as a rescue, suffice to say all children torn from their mothers breast or their fathers arms find sancturary.
A world without fathers and mothers is a terrible one indeed.
This age perhaps it is more important than ever to protect and guide the children, and keep them on a path that allows them all to grow up without the threat of violence, drugs and the predatory advance of pornagraphers and pediphiles..

Oct 11, 2005, 02:11 PM	#1
Falstaff Old Codger Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: USAFA Posts: 19,048 Rep Power: 207	Just for a day or two. Logan wants a new father, and he's quite particuler to say someone who loves him and his mother and wont go away. Many years he has waited, and many more he may. for his father loves no person but himself, and Logan has cried and prayed. I had a chance for a weekend to hold his hand and listen while he spoke we went to the zoo, we went to the store, and we laughed and he told a joke. But deep in his heart, he told me, is an image of a man who gave him his name. but for a few weekends a month I get to be that man, and to Logan it is all the same. Each morning now, I ask that the good Lord to watch over , and keep him safe and sound. That though my children are grown and moved away, at least he will see me come around. A little boy of nine knows no other way to honestly express. his desire for a man of character and kindness, and to be his very best. I can for just a day or two, and perhaps longer if I choose. teach him to measure his success by what he gained and not what he may lose. His own flesh and blood, a man who knows him as his own son. chose a path of destruction, used drugs and used a gun. Logan asked me once when he was forced by circumstance to become a man. that if it were alright with me, just for a few days I understand. And so with each day, each week and each month that passes by. that I measure up to the expectations of a boy with so many burdens, and let his heart fly. Fatherhood is much more than any responsibility I could ever hope to comprehend. the privilege of being one for Logan for a day or two is one I hope never ends. __________________ "Inspiration is always a surprising visitor."

Oct 11, 2005, 04:10 PM	Thread Starter #3
Falstaff Old Codger Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: USAFA Posts: 19,048 Rep Power: 207	I remember when I was thirty, and was so shocked that I lived that long, now I hope I live to fifty and help the young man on his way...he deserves so much more.. Drugs have taken so many lives, and cancer is not far behind. I hope the legacy is favorable for the boy, he will inherit so many things that he cannot possibly understand, I hope I can be around to clear it all up for him. I might just stick around, and see. __________________ "Inspiration is always a surprising visitor."

Oct 11, 2005, 07:58 PM	Thread Starter #5
Falstaff Old Codger Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: USAFA Posts: 19,048 Rep Power: 207	Logan is no different than so many other youngsters robbed of a father figure by circumstance, but he is special nonetheless. There is nothing more honorable IMO than to spend a few moments with a child without a parent, and listen to the music of their heart. I have grown accustomed to the melody, and maybe like an old bear, I can tolerate a cub or two gnawing on me LOL. Damon, Logan and so many other children need love, need guidiance and tolerance in a world that would consume them if we left them to their own fate. I believe the biggest problem facing the world are fatherless children. __________________ "Inspiration is always a surprising visitor."

Oct 11, 2005, 11:52 PM	Thread Starter #9
Falstaff Old Codger Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: USAFA Posts: 19,048 Rep Power: 207	Its a hard world that seeks to destroy children.... that is what I believe... exploited by circumstance.... exploited by drug dealers and pornographers.... consumed... __________________ "Inspiration is always a surprising visitor."

Oct 12, 2005, 01:37 PM	Thread Starter #11
Falstaff Old Codger Join Date: Sep 2002 Location: USAFA Posts: 19,048 Rep Power: 207	What I find consistently is the expectations placed on children today by their parents who themselves are placing greater burdens upon themselves far exceed anything realistic. Children without parents and without proper guidiance struggle with issues that to us seem so benign, but wiegh heavily upon them. A boy who has turned his back on his father because of his drug use and abusive and criminal behaviour demonstrates great courage when he reaches out and asks of us, whether we can help him find his own image to embrace. I have been fortunate to be able to take my father for granted and my mother as well. To a child of nine, I cant imagine what wheels must turn in his mind and what must be ripped from his heart to allow him to make is real father "dead". I didnt intend to rescue this child nor would I label my efforts as a rescue, suffice to say all children torn from their mothers breast or their fathers arms find sancturary. A world without fathers and mothers is a terrible one indeed. This age perhaps it is more important than ever to protect and guide the children, and keep them on a path that allows them all to grow up without the threat of violence, drugs and the predatory advance of pornagraphers and pediphiles.. __________________ "Inspiration is always a surprising visitor."

Oct 11, 2005, 03:35 PM	#2
Vikingod Int'l Fish Liaison Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: By the light of lamp I sit and type... Posts: 16,197 Rep Power: 112 System Specs	Very nice jeff, I know exactly the feeling behind that poem, I feel the same for my eldest daughter, especially the last line.

Oct 11, 2005, 05:20 PM	#4
pr0digal jenius Delete Me Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 14,648 Rep Power: 0	very moving, especially for those of us who have had "father issues"

Oct 11, 2005, 08:53 PM	#7
pr0digal jenius Delete Me Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 14,648 Rep Power: 0	it is sad, your right seth. I get blank looks and "you're fucking kidding" when people find out that I A - haven't had sex, and B - plan on settling down "Settling down" isn't common anymore. I guess 40 is the new 20