[theironman]

I really would like some advice... I will try to explain my story.. I have met this girl a year ago. She studyes here where I live and I just spoke with her twice. She is gorgeous, that kind f woman that can make you stay the whole night awake just thinking about her. But she is different from girls here and I do not know how to talk to her, everytime I see her I do not know what to do and I start to shake my legs, very nervous... I had girlfriends before met her, but she is so confident and beautiful that i do not know what to do or what to say. I do not know why but she is different.. what do I do? Somebody can advice me?

[Callandor]

Just be yourself, simple.

[theironman]

I am planning to ask her to go out when she comes back from Brazil. Even my computers I am forgetting, women are terrible sometimes lol thanks dude.

[Callandor]

No problem man. Good luck and I hope you guys have a happy relationship if she says yes.

So she's from Brazil then? I once had a girlfriend from Bolivia.

[theironman]

Yep. That's why it has been difficult. She is different from Danish girls. What did you think about bolivian girls? what did you do to get close? Any advice would be great!

[Callandor]

Well, it was a long time ago and she was young so I've forgotten alot of stuff and it might not apply to your girl. But I basically texted her alot in the beginning before we even started dating, then we started going out and doing stuff. She was fun to be around and I really enjoyed dating her.

So in the end I guess what I'm saying is lots of communication is good, but let her be the one to initiate it most of the time and always be the one to end the conversation. Always leave her interested so she will come back. And don't talk to her all the time, sometimes say that you're busy and such and let her wait. That should help you some lol.

[theironman]

lol I will try your advice but first of all I will try to make her interested on me lol I hope she knows I exist. I am thinking in learning spanish so I can ask her to go out in her language.

[psycophic]

Try and make friends with her first, I think that's what Callandor means, and then take it to the next level later. You don't have to start on the girlfriend/boyfriend tip right away, take it slow, then ask her out after a while of getting to know her and her getting to know you; don't worry dude, you'll be fine.

[Callandor]

Yeah, you're better off making friends with her first, you don't wanna scare her away. But when you make friends with her be the first to say "we're just friends" or say "want to be my friend" or something like that, this avoids you getting put into the friendship frame in which she might want to be friends with you forever. The moment she finds out you just want to be friends with her she might want something more.

[theironman]

I am trying to get close without scaring her or putting too much pressure but the problem is that I am not the only one who wants to ask her to go out lol and to make things worse she knows that. She is not snobbish, she is really cool but she knows she is in control.

[theironman]

But your idea about say to her that I want friendship may work. She will be able to know me better...

[Callandor]

Be cocky/funny (but not too cocky), make fun of her but not in a mean way. This should give you back the control. She will think you're the only guy who is not affected by her looks like all the other guys, but rather you're comfortable being around her. If she laughs at your jokes then that is a good sign. If she doesn't then don't make any more.

[Callandor]

Originally Posted by theironman

But your idea about say to her that I want friendship may work. She will be able to know me better...

Yeah, but like I said, be the one to say you want to be friends first, so that you're the one putting her in a friendship frame. That way she'll be the one who wants to take the relationship to the next level.

[theironman]

Women should come with instructional manual lol I am almost crazy. Why do they do that with us?

[theironman]

But she is so, so, so hot!

[Callandor]

Originally Posted by theironman

Women should come with instructional manual lol I am almost crazy. Why do they do that with us?

Lol, wouldn't that be nice if women did come with instructional manuals.

But where would the fun be in chasing them?

Originally Posted by theironman

But she is so, so, so hot!

That's why playing down her beauty is going to work, because so few people (if any) have treated her like that. It'll make her curious about you, in a good way. Trust me man, just play it cool, make a few jokes at her expense, put her in the friendship frame first (and btw make jokes even when the two of you are friends) and she will be all yours at the end of the day.

[theironman]

lol you are right man, completely right lo
thanks for everything.

[Callandor]

Once again no problem, and I'm not really an expert on this, there's a guy on here called BlueMak, he is a legend.

And there is another legend, they call him BiGBrOwNPimpsta, if you are lucky one of the two might stop by and give you some hidden knowledge on the subject at hand.

[IvanV]

One thing about starting a relationship with friendship, don't get too friendly, keep her on the edge! Make her feel like you think that she's got something that you like, but you're not sure if you like it enough. It doesn't matter how pretty she is, or how confident and in control she normally seems.

But I think that they've got you pretty well covered, so I'll just give you a geography tip: Brazil is the only Latin American country where Spanish isn't the official language. So, unless you're sure that Spanish is her mother-tongue, she most likely speaks Portuguese (sorry if this was unnecessary, I just wanted to help you avoid an awkward moment ).

[Judas]

pie her...... hopefully she has a sense of humor....

[theironman]

Originally Posted by IvanV

so I'll just give you a geography tip: Brazil is the only Latin American country where Spanish isn't the official language. So, unless you're sure that Spanish is her mother-tongue, she most likely speaks Portuguese (sorry if this was unnecessary, I just wanted to help you avoid an awkward moment ).

Thank you man, I was in doubt about that , but you are right. Thank you very much.

[theironman]

Originally Posted by Judas

pie her...... hopefully she has a sense of humor....

yes, she has sense of humor but I think that doing this won't make her laugh...

[theironman]

Originally Posted by Judas

pie her...... hopefully she has a sense of humor....

And dude, I saw her angry once and I don't wanna see again lol

[Tyrsonswood]

I saw her angry once and I don't wanna see again

Then you don't want her as a girlfriend....... Seriously! There's no way to avoid seeing her angry at some point if you are her boyfriend and quite possibly you will be the cause of the anger. Fact of life.

[craig5320]

Originally Posted by Tyrsonswood

Then you don't want her as a girlfriend....... Seriously! There's no way to avoid seeing her angry at some point if you are her boyfriend and quite possibly you will be the cause of the anger. Fact of life.

Cause or not, he'll get the blame!

[niceguyrichy]

Originally Posted by craig5320

Cause or not, he'll get the blame!

aye

[Veridian3]

But.... surely it depends on how good she is at making up afterwards?

[theironman]

Originally Posted by craig5320

Cause or not, he'll get the blame!

lol yep, always

[theironman]

Originally Posted by Tyrsonswood

Then you don't want her as a girlfriend....... Seriously! There's no way to avoid seeing her angry at some point if you are her boyfriend and quite possibly you will be the cause of the anger. Fact of life.

I really want her as my girlfriend because of this I don't wanna see her angry
BTW I got her phone number in Brazil I'm planning call her

[sahara_mafia]

don't call her there will be to many dead spaces in the conversation
os just sms

have u spoken the her like hi or hello